Marriage!

michael · 02-07-2009, 00:14

My dad said: 'Son, why get married and make one woman unhappy when you can stay single and make them all happy?' Has anyone else got any good home-spun advice on relationships? Bearing in mind the above applies equally to both genders.
A Spanish one, which has long been my favourite is: "He who dishonours his wife dishonours himself.' I think that is superb.

Val · 02-07-2009, 00:43

You've made your bed now sleep in it ! in other words you choose it so get on with it !

keddyboy · 03-07-2009, 12:30

My father in law said to me, 'Son when you get married I will give you a cow and 2 acres' 40 years on and I'm still waiting for the two acres!!!

michael · 03-07-2009, 12:47

"Son! When you get married always insist on one night a week with the boys' ... but, don't waste it on the boys."

Carolina Moon · 03-07-2009, 20:16

Marriage should be done in a "Contract Form" - 7 years and renew or 50% split - end of!!! It is a croc to say you stay together for the sake of the kids or money but sometimes it is a damn sight easier!

People change - grow up - move on - some don't. I am sorry mine didn't work out (after 30 years) but them's the breaks - does anyone know of a truly happy marriage.

michael · 03-07-2009, 20:36

It is the opposite to a prison sentence: In nick you get your sentence halved for good behaviour. In marriage the sentence is cut short - if you behave badly.

Most people, once the kids are no longer dependent, do grow apart. I have seen no end of examples. You see them in the pubs and in the supermarkets; bored out of their minds with each other.
I read somewhere that most people in that category stay together not through love or affection; or even chemistry ... whatever. They simply haven't the bottle to say: "Excuse me, dear. A word?'
Who can blame them, especially if the feeling isn't mutual? It must be devastating to be abandoned so perhaps staying together is a comfort zone.
Hey! A bit like us. With mixed feelings about, 'Am I doing the right thing?' we headed abroad with fingers crossed and faith in our souls. Mine was the right decision. Trepidation unfounded ... and I left a really good life. But, no regrets. One very happy bunny here. Right! I am off out with a mate. Viva Espana!

dunmovin · 06-07-2009, 17:00

marriage consist of two people, who each swear that the other one snores and they don't

what is the longest sentence in the english language?

"I do"

CDThader · 26-07-2009, 19:58

This thread appears to be an advertisement for a marriage counsellor...My recipe would be to respect and talk to each other. Everything else should then come naturally. (My advice is free.. Not sure about Reynaldo's}

CD
In the UK you have to renew all your licences except one. The Marriage licence. Even driving licences have to be renewed when you reach 70.

baldilocks · 26-07-2009, 20:39

Quote:"It is very important that the couple need to give respect to each other. Without love you cannot respect a person and without love no marriage can be successful."

Speaking from experience (4th time around - 2 divorces and a death - and now on the best, 20 years next January) It only works if you each put your partner first.

weblin · 27-07-2009, 16:36

It also works if you do not take your partner for granted ..nearly nothing in life comes for free ..mostly you need to work on things..why not also work on a relationship to keep it on an even keel, keep it interesting and exciting?

Just my three cents

02-07-2009, 00:14	#1 (permalink)
michael michael is.... Spain Forum Regulars Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Southern Costa Blanca Posts: 378 Thanks: 42 Thanked 19 Times in 19 Posts Rep Power: 19	Marriage! My dad said: 'Son, why get married and make one woman unhappy when you can stay single and make them all happy?' Has anyone else got any good home-spun advice on relationships? Bearing in mind the above applies equally to both genders. A Spanish one, which has long been my favourite is: "He who dishonours his wife dishonours himself.' I think that is superb.

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dunmovin dunmovin is.... Spain Forum Regulars Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Gorga, Alicante Posts: 1,333 Thanks: 56 Thanked 132 Times in 112 Posts Rep Power: 0	marriage consist of two people, who each swear that the other one snores and they don't what is the longest sentence in the english language? "I do" Last edited by dunmovin; 06-07-2009 at 17:01. Reason: added a bit

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CDThader CDThader is getting too old to buy green bananas. Spain Forum Regulars Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: I live in Ciudad Quesada, an Urbanisation of Rojales, Alicante Age: 67 Posts: 787 Thanks: 28 Thanked 50 Times in 49 Posts Rep Power: 22	This thread appears to be an advertisement for a marriage counsellor...My recipe would be to respect and talk to each other. Everything else should then come naturally. (My advice is free.. Not sure about Reynaldo's} CD In the UK you have to renew all your licences except one. The Marriage licence. Even driving licences have to be renewed when you reach 70. Last edited by CDThader; 26-07-2009 at 20:14.

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Val Val is curious as to what happened here Spain Guru Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 3,326 Thanks: 228 Thanked 172 Times in 160 Posts Rep Power: 51	You've made your bed now sleep in it ! in other words you choose it so get on with it !

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keddyboy keddyboy is Guadalhorce Valley, Costa del Sol Spain Forum Regulars Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Guadahorce Valley Posts: 507 Thanks: 0 Thanked 39 Times in 34 Posts Rep Power: 22	My father in law said to me, 'Son when you get married I will give you a cow and 2 acres' 40 years on and I'm still waiting for the two acres!!!

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michael michael is.... Spain Forum Regulars Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Southern Costa Blanca Posts: 378 Thanks: 42 Thanked 19 Times in 19 Posts Rep Power: 19	"Son! When you get married always insist on one night a week with the boys' ... but, don't waste it on the boys."

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Carolina Moon Carolina Moon is.... Spain Forum Regulars Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Punta Prima/Playa Flamenca, Orihuela Costa Posts: 16 Thanks: 1 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts Rep Power: 0	Marriage should be done in a "Contract Form" - 7 years and renew or 50% split - end of!!! It is a croc to say you stay together for the sake of the kids or money but sometimes it is a damn sight easier! People change - grow up - move on - some don't. I am sorry mine didn't work out (after 30 years) but them's the breaks - does anyone know of a truly happy marriage.

03-07-2009, 20:36	#6 (permalink)
michael michael is.... Spain Forum Regulars Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Southern Costa Blanca Posts: 378 Thanks: 42 Thanked 19 Times in 19 Posts Rep Power: 19	It is the opposite to a prison sentence: In nick you get your sentence halved for good behaviour. In marriage the sentence is cut short - if you behave badly. Most people, once the kids are no longer dependent, do grow apart. I have seen no end of examples. You see them in the pubs and in the supermarkets; bored out of their minds with each other. I read somewhere that most people in that category stay together not through love or affection; or even chemistry ... whatever. They simply haven't the bottle to say: "Excuse me, dear. A word?' Who can blame them, especially if the feeling isn't mutual? It must be devastating to be abandoned so perhaps staying together is a comfort zone. Hey! A bit like us. With mixed feelings about, 'Am I doing the right thing?' we headed abroad with fingers crossed and faith in our souls. Mine was the right decision. Trepidation unfounded ... and I left a really good life. But, no regrets. One very happy bunny here. Right! I am off out with a mate. Viva Espana!

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baldilocks baldilocks is.... Banned Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Castillo de Locubín, Jaén Age: 68 Posts: 1,591 Thanks: 53 Thanked 92 Times in 87 Posts Rep Power: 0	Quote:"It is very important that the couple need to give respect to each other. Without love you cannot respect a person and without love no marriage can be successful." Speaking from experience (4th time around - 2 divorces and a death - and now on the best, 20 years next January) It only works if you each put your partner first.

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weblin weblin is always busy Spain Forum Regulars Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: en el campo,Penedes area,Barcelona Age: 53 Posts: 154 Thanks: 8 Thanked 14 Times in 13 Posts Rep Power: 9	It also works if you do not take your partner for granted ..nearly nothing in life comes for free ..mostly you need to work on things..why not also work on a relationship to keep it on an even keel, keep it interesting and exciting? Just my three cents

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